So, you read the headline and you just had to click to read the article, or rather, your ego made you click to read because it wants to know why it’s being labeled a “snowflake”, or because it wants to vehemently argue for why it feels the way that it does when it reads headlines in the news such as “Officer gets denied service at (insert popular franchise here)…” But remember, the point of this project and this philosophy is to place ourselves under constant observation and being honest with ourselves. I’ll makes sure to remind you of that frequently. So here we go…
We see the headlines constantly circulate the media from all corners of the country where an on-duty LEO, or even and off duty LEO sporting blue line products, gets refused service in a private enterprise. And yes, we see these headlines more attached to the coffee shop Starbucks.
It’s not always clear cut who actually reports these acts of disrespect to the news, sometimes it is the actual police department, other times it’s not certain. Perhaps it’s a bystander who also finds the act to be disrespectful, but nevertheless, it makes news. Then it happens. We take to the multiple social media platforms across the internet, mixing our politics with their coffee, pouring it into a large thermos that has the phrase “snowflake tears” engraved on the side, and vowing to damn Starbucks to the deep murky corners of hell by never giving them another dime of our money.
We become so full of hurt and rage, forgetting just how small of a percentage of Starbucks employees there are who act in that manner, and how isolated these incidents actually are. We are so blinded by the headlines, because well, they are headlines so they must be important. And because we are blinded, we blame the entire corporation instead of the employee. But how is that fair? We hate it when one officer fucks something up resulting in citizens blaming the entire police profession, don’t we?
Yes, it’s shameful and disrespectful to know that they are people out there hidden amongst the rank and file of private enterprise employees who feel disdain towards us. I don’t like it any more than you do, but this is America, and people have the right to feel and say what they will about us, and that is something we need to accept instead of allowing our egos to be bruised by it.
If this is you or has been you in the past, well, then you might be a snowflake. But there’s always a way to fix that, by just practicing a little virtue, maybe a little humility and self-restraint (temperance)? First step in that is, as almost always, to alter your perception and see the headline for what it actually is, a headline, not a reason to allow yourself to be vexed and pissed off the rest of the day. As Marcus Aurelius once greatly put it:
Next step, is to not become the snowflake that you like to make fun of. Another great Marcus aphorism puts is bluntly:
“The best way to avenge yourself is not to become like the wrongdoer.”
You don’t need to be displeased with the entire Starbucks franchise just like the rest of the society is displeased with the entire LEO profession after an isolated incident. You don’t need to be a keyboard martyr and vocalize your disdain like the rest of society does. You don’t have to do any of that because truthfully, the incident of disrespect didn’t happen to you in the first place. It happened to some officer in some town you’ve never been to, and honestly, they probably got over it quickly and moved on with their lives, and yet, you still want to be pissed about it. Jokes on you, I guess.
And to dissect this further, if you had been that cop who was refused service, or had the word “pig” written on their coffee cup, or disrespected in anyway, would you really react in public the way you react online? Probably not. And why’s that? Because deep down inside, you know that you’re better than that disrespectful employee. You’re wiser than they are, you are more grounded than they are. You already possess the skills to withstand the disrespect in person, so utilize your restraint behind your keyboard.
Besides, you know that at the end of the day, you’ll find yourself patronizing a Starbucks at one point or another, and will probably get it for free. There, you win.
So, does your ego agree with this assessment? Are cops snowflakes?
Aurelius, M. (1997). Meditations (Dover Thrift Edition ed.). (W. Kaufman, Ed., & G. Long, Trans.) Mineola, New York: Dover Publications. Retrieved 2018